Why I Love Hate Mail…And Why You Should Too!

April 21st, 2010

You know you’ve arrived when you start getting the hate mail. That’s not a joke. I knew this blog was going in the right direction when I started getting (mostly anonymous) hate mail.  And of course, I get the comments from “fans” of any guru (or guru’s book) I happen not to like.

In those letters I’ve been told that:

  • I have no business blogging (as if there is some special qualification to blog)
  • I’m a nobody with no money (they must have telepathically looked in my bank account)
  • I am someone who believes in  doctors and the medical community and not “natural” products (no kidding!… don’t they read my blog?)
  • I have no right to blog (is blogging a right?)

I have also been referred to as:

  • A hater
  • A negative thinker
  • A dream stealer

Some adjectives used to describe me:

  • Close-minded
  • Jealous
  • Stupid
  • Hateful
  • Mean-spirited

The list goes on and on.

Mind you, I don’t take this personally.  What’s funny is that I had to check the IP addresses because I thought they were coming from the same person.  You see, all my hate mail follows a pattern.

The common thing I see from the hate mailers is :

  • they’re anonymous
  • their English is unintelligible
  • they never contradict what I say, they are only angry at what I said (for example, The Secret is great..how can you say it’s wrong!)
  • when I make fun of scamming tactics, fans of a guru are upset because I am talking about their guru—even though I never mentioned any guru by name (and in some cases, never even heard of the guy)

And guess what?  I love it.  I love it because you know that you are writing something meaningful and bold when you start getting hate mail.   I like having spirited exchanges.

Unfortunately, most of these e-mails are not good exchanges.  It’s just some person who is angry because I disagree with their guru or philosophy or didn’t like a book that supposedly changed their life.  And I find it amusing because my blog is more humor-oriented.  I mean if they thought I was mean, they should go visit the Salty Droid.

But that’s the way it works.

I am writing about my hate mail because some people I know are uncomfortable getting hate mail or any critical comments.  In their blogs, they never take a stand or if they do take a stand, they’ll back down the minute someone criticizes them.  But I look at hate mail and criticism as a compliment.

At least people care about what you’re writing about.  It’s when they don’t care that your blog fades into obscurity.

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  • http://enlightenmentward.wordpress.com NellaLou

    This is very timely for me. It is interesting how these haters never address the issue and pretty well almost argue about a writer's personality, moral deficiency, lack of understanding of the subject matter, the latter always without explaining why, and then mix in about half a dozen non-relevent “facts” and when these are refuted the line generally goes “You don't really care about the truth!!!” or something like that. It's always emotional. I like to think of it in the same way as those who scream at sports matches or on street corners. Whoever they encounter in their environment gets it. Doesn't even matter who they are, what they've actually said or why.

    Enjoyed the post. Thanks

  • http://enlightenmentward.wordpress.com NellaLou

    This is very timely for me. It is interesting how these haters never address the issue and pretty well almost argue about a writer's personality, moral deficiency, lack of understanding of the subject matter, the latter always without explaining why, and then mix in about half a dozen non-relevent “facts” and when these are refuted the line generally goes “You don't really care about the truth!!!” or something like that. It's always emotional. I like to think of it in the same way as those who scream at sports matches or on street corners. Whoever they encounter in their environment gets it. Doesn't even matter who they are, what they've actually said or why.

    Enjoyed the post. Thanks

  • carlon

    They always tell me I need to go through some guy's ENTIRE program before I can judge that person. I then tell them that if they pay for it, I'll go through the program and see…no takers so far. All talk and no action, these guys.

  • Self Help Author

    Hater? Negative Thinker? Dream Stealer?

    Those are all compliments if your scorn is pointed in the right direction!

    However, the “no money” accusations might have an element of truth to them.

    So far, you’ve given me some fun and interesting stuff to read but where are the $5000 seminars in Fiji? No Fire Walks Carlon?

    Its O.K. If you walk fast enough over the hot coals, it doesn’t damage your feet. Its basic Physics. I can’t help thinking that you’re missing a trick here somewhere ;-)