The problem is that most of the crap you read today equates happiness to getting what you want.
They call that “real happiness”. But the problem, as the philosopher Jagger once said, is you can’t always get what you want. Furthermore, you shouldn’t always get what you want. Sometimes the things you want aren’t the things you need. Or sometimes the things you want are downright bad for you. And most of the time your desire to get what you want only makes you more unhappy.
So, what happens now? Well, the things is: there are some things you can’t control and some things you can control. And your reaction to how things turn out is well within your control. Is this revolutionary? Heck , no. Epictetus said that in his Handbook way back when.
Let me give you an example Some guy is born without limbs. Most of us think that would suck. But that guy instead says that he is happy and he loves life. Being born without limbs becomes something positive for him. Some might argue that he is not really happy, but just making the best out of his situation. But I don’t think so. Being happy is being happy. Oh, by the way…. the guy born without limbs…that’s a real guy. His name is Nick Vujicic and we’re huge fans.
If the goal is to be happy, then it is achievable.
You don’t need a million dollars to be happy.
You don’t need a bigger car to be happy.
You only need to be satisfied with what you have.
Photo by Jason Ignacio.